When I go shopping with my daughter, it is normal for strangers to come up to us to chat about my toddler’s red hair. People feel the need to say something when they see how red her hair is, especially when it’s lit up by the sun. Moms of redheads experience this all the time.
At first, all the attention was fun. I was a proud mama showing off my beautiful baby. But as years have gone by, it has become increasingly more annoying, especially when in a hurry. I’m forced to answer the same questions over and over and over. Now, when I see a stranger approach, I cringe (and sometimes grab my daughter to run screaming in the opposite direction – just kidding). This is because I know exactly what they are going to ask.
10 Cringe-worthy Questions only Moms of Redheads Get Asked
Where does he/she get that red hair?
This question is especially annoying to me because I’m a ginger too. For some reason, my red hair disappears when I am around my daughter. In case you are undecided, she gets it from me (and my husband too).
Who has the red hair in your family?
Once again, if you are a redhead like me, this question can be infuriating. If not, it still gets tiring describing your family’s entire genetic history when you are just trying to pick up a few items for dinner. We have multiple redheads in my family. I usually have to name each and every one.
Are you Irish? (or Are you Scottish?)
I love how people feel the need to tell you where your from, especially when you have a child with red hair. They also argue with you when you share your true heritage. My family is neither Irish or Scottish, but strangers tell me I am wrong. They assure me I must be Irish or Scottish way, way back, and I just don’t know it.
Do you dye your hair to look like your kid?
Yes, I have been asked this more than once. The answer is no! (And once, believe it or not, I was even asked if I dyed my daughter’s hair, the answer is still no).
Does he/she have a temper?
Not all redheads have tempers or are stubborn. If we get angry, we will not turn you into a freckle, I promise.
Do you want to see a picture of my redhead sister, grandson, niece, neighbor, dog, cat, etc.?
This is actually the hardest question because it is so time-consuming. You have to wait and wait while the person scrolls through all their photos to find that one ginger picture they are thinking of.
Did you want a Redhead baby?
This one is an easy question. Yes! I hoped for a redhead. But, like other moms, I wanted a healthy baby more. I would have been happy with any hair color, or even no hair. (This question can also be time-consuming. As many people feel the need to share how they wished for a redhead but ended up with a child with a different hair color instead.)
Do you think his/her hair will stay red? Will it fade?
I hope not, but I can’t predict the future.
Does your husband have red hair?
Nope but his mother does.
Do you know how lucky you are?
Okay, this question is the best. Yes, I do consider myself extremely lucky to be the mother of my beautiful, smart, curious, strong, active daughter who just so happens to have red hair. I love my little carrot.
How I Answer Most Questions
I don’t really say most of the responses I wrote above next to each question. Even though I may be thinking them, I am way more polite. I know most people mean well and are just curious/trying to make conversation.
Here is how I answer most of the questions:
“Yes, red hair runs in our family, on both sides actually. We hoped we were going to have a redhead. We knew there was a strong chance. Eventually, we hope to have another one. We love having a redhead child.”
There is also lots of nodding and thank-you’s. I have found this helps the interaction go quickly so my daughter and I can continue about our day.
The Best Response
The very best response is actually to say nothing at all and just smile big like my daughter does, and even wave or blow a kiss. The interaction is quick and the person leaves happy. They were touched by a mystical redhead creature after all 🙂
Well, that is my list of the top 10 questions I get asked almost every day. Moms of redheads, do you agree? Did I miss any big ones? Please share in the comments below.
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